Friday, January 29, 2010
I was talking to someone the other day...they asked us about children and me, being who I am, openly informed them of our infertility. There immediate response was 'whose fault is it?'
Yes...this may seem insensitive and to be honest it is. However in the world of infertility you learn to handle insensitive comments with a grain of salt. Yes, sure-they still hurt and yes some are quite annoying; however the 'average' person doesn't know what to say nor do they realize the things that are said can be hurtful...
We have received a lot of comments; 'Whose fault is it?' seems to be a very popular one.
It's easy to put the blame on me...or my husband...it's easy to tell people 'Well my husband has a low % of normal sperm'....and it's easy for Zach to say 'my wife has PCOS...and tons of other issues'; however we believe it's neither of our faults. YES-our bodies are far from normal, and YES we are very far from 'fertile mertiles'---some might call us naive but we like to think that this is God's plan and no one is 'at fault' for this.
Placing blame on each other can cause resentment, guilt and extremely hurt feelings! Infertility is OUR life...not his, not mine....OURS.
1 Corinthians 12:24-26 God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lack it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that it's parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.