I can’t speak for everyone; but I can speak for myself and infertility was NOT in my plans that I had for my life…As I mentioned on Saturday I had our life planned out…married…honey moon life…then plan for babies. God had other plans. I didn’t like them—didn’t like them one bit!
I personally am not keen to change; especially when it regards my life…it took along time for me to accept this change and this journey God placed us on. I was bitter, angry, saddened, depressed. I didn’t like this ‘change’…I didn’t want this ‘change’… I tried to justify why we were going through this and couldn’t come up with a valid reason…I was not going to accept it; bottom line! I choose to ignore to it and did so for about a year.
In order to accept change and the suffering it brings, we need to find the meaning in it…it took a while before I uncovered the meaning of this journey…to this day I do not have all the answers, but I do have a meaning in life…I finally choose that I would ‘master’ this change rather than being a ‘victim’ of it.
My mom used to tell me if you don’t like something ‘change it’, if you can’t change it then change the way you think about it. Well there was no doubt that I couldn’t change the path I am on…although I tried to detour many times to get back on the path all my friends were on it’s obvious it wasn’t happening for me…I was stuck, stuck on a path that I didn’t understand and couldn’t change (I felt lost, without a GPS…where do I go?)…
That’s when remembered what my mom used to tell me and I started to change the way I thought about infertility…it is not all grand…by any means; in fact this is one of the hardest journeys I’ve been on…I’ve never shed more tears than I have in the past 4 years…but with that said this is also the most rewarding journey I’ve been on, it’s strengthened me in ways I never thought could happen…Change is more so a challenge vs. a threat…I, as well as so many with infertility, (or any struggle in life) view this broken paths as ‘threats’…however they are really put in our life to challenge us and strengthen us.
Change can be hard, but it can also be very rewarding. I personally have become a better daughter, better wife, and better friend due to this journey; infertility has touched my life in ways that I never thought could...
6 comments:
I am NOT a fan of change, either! But I felt like you do. It was NEVER a question that I would be a mother, the timing was the problem (for me). It WILL happen, I think you know it will it's just hard to wait.
I loved this post. There are so many things that we simply can't change, and like your Mom said, we simply need to change how we think about it. Attitude is truly everything in life. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.
I feel like I can relate to this post. When my mom died, I didn't like that change, didn't want it, and so I hid out for years while I tried to process that I had to accept it. God can really work miracles on who we are when we are at our weakest, and that's exactly what He did for me.
Very beautiful post!
Very nice sweetie. Thanks for sharing!
I really am so glad I found your blog... I needed to hear this... and I'm sure I'll find many more things I needed to hear as I keep reading old posts (and new ones). THANK YOU FOR SHARING!
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