Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Are You Pregnant?

Customer: Are you pregnant sweetie?

Me: (stunned, a little insulted and embarrassed) No mam' why do I look pregnant? (wondering in my head how I possibly look pregnant with just losing 8 pounds, thinking to myself I'm never wearing this dress again)

Customer: Oh no mam, your as skinny as a toothpick (haha...not quite-I wish!) You just have that 'glow' about you...

Me: Oh no mam, that's just my sunburned nose (sighing in relief that it's not because I 'look' pregnant...I was really loving this dress but thinking in my head how fast this dress would go in the back of my closet if she said it was because I 'looked' pregnant)


In the four years I've been trying to get pregnant, I have never been asked this question. I've been asked a lot if I thought I was or when will I get pregnant, but never 'are you pregnant' by a complete stranger. I'm not sure if being asked this made me happy or sad, or a little of both. I liked being compared to a toothpick although that's far from true, it felt nice to be told I had a 'glow' even though it was just my nose that's as bright as Rudolph's. But it did make me a little sad because everything in me wanted to say 'why yes I am' and well that would be a flat lie...

So...in the mean time I will make sure I wear even more sunblock to avoid my sunburn being confused with the 'glowing' of a pregnant women, and hopefully the next time someone thinks I'm pregnant I can answer 'yes'! :)

16 comments:

Lauren Kelly said...

Or..... maybe this is a sign of what's yet to come?????? :) Love ya girl!!

Life Happens said...

Focus on the fact that she said you're skinny as a tooth pick! (Which I'm sure you are).

I do hope that the next time someone ask you that question, you can glowing answer Yes!

Melody said...

hmmm, I'm not sure what to think about this. I have lots of thoughts. 1. HOW BRAVE to ask someone that. I think it's kind rude to ask someone that. 2. I never understood "pregnant glow" What the heck does that even mean? No one glows! Fireflies glow, NOT humans! That is the stupidest saying ever that pregnant women glow even though I know it's been around forever. 3. I feel like it must be a reminder from God that he hasn't forgotten about you. I am positive you will have your miracle. And who knows... maybe you are and just don't know it yet? Love ya!

Katy said...

Hi Tiffany,

I agree with Melody! It must have been a reminder from God that he hasn't forgotten about you!

I'm right there with ya girl! Just left a get-together with some of my teacher friends and oh course they all wanted to know if I had any "news." Very sweet, yes, but sad for me that I didn't.

Praying for you!
Katy
www.lifeasmrswright.blogspot.com

The Simmons Family said...

Tiff.. you are going to be the most glowing pregnant girl ever! I pray that it happens soon!!

Donna said...

I say take it as a compliment, that you just look adorable, and forget it. It was a jarring moment but just means you look too cute from a bumbling, well-meaning stranger....

Rosie said...

I thought I commented on this already, but I guess not :)

You are absolutely glowing all the time...you are the sweetest person ever! Sometimes ppl just don't know what they say can be inappropriate.

Peppermint Patty said...

I wore a baby doll shirt one time and a few ladies that I knew asked me if I was pregnant.

Bonnie said...

Hey, I've been a "lurker" here for a while....but wanted to comment today and let you know that I'm praying for you!!

jess said...

Hi- I am new to blogging. Just wanted to say hi and that I enjoy learning from you and others about infertility, as I am going through the same thing. Please feel free to follow me. -Jess: http://jesstryingtoconceive.blogspot.com/

twondra said...

I think of you every day sweetie. I pray some day you'll be able to say yes. :) (((HUGS)))

Brooke said...

I don't think I have ever commented but I check in periodically. I just wanted to tell you that my sis and her husband have been struggling with infertility for 6 years. She just found out she is 6 weeks pregnant and has heard the heartbeat and everything! And the best part, it happened naturally! I just wanted to share in hopes that it would give you more hope.

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Ashlee McCrary said...

I've never understood why people ask women questions like that, esp pregnant questions. When Rylie was littlier she used to call every girl a "Mommy" & I had to nip that in the bud. I was so afraid she would yell Mommy at someone in a store & offend someone who may be trying to become a Mommy or something. So many things to think about but not everybody realizes how harmful they can be without even trying.

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Lori said...

Maybe this is a sign girl!! You deserve to answer "Yes!" Praying for you!!


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