Wednesday, July 1, 2009

On Hold for the Time Being...

The day we were told that there was going to be a fundraiser on our behalf we were beyond thrilled. It was amazing how people could care so much about us to want to help us through this journey and help make it as stress free as possible. We never thought that something so wonderful could turn into something so negative.

Zach and I have been judged beyond words, we have been told that we are ungrateful people; we are fake and no longer will they feel sorry for us. Our actions are being watched; when we go to the store for any reason we are being looked down upon--we absolutely can not stop our lives due to this infertility journey, we will still purchase things…as our grocery list and personal list have minimized we still must live. There have been several things happen in the last few weeks that have left us extremely hurt and speechless---and it’s very hard for my husband to be speechless! Due to the negativity from this we have been left with little to no choice, Zach and I have decided this fundraiser must go on hold as we need to focus fully on our upcoming chapter in our life.

The Pifer Bean Blog will still exist; we have a few key chains and bracelets left that we will continue to sale until they are gone; after that the only thing that will remain is “Thinking Of You Thursday’s” (this will just be every other week vs. every week, so please feel free to continue to email your prayer request) and support pictures, Ashley has received many pictures of ya’ll supporting us and those will either be posted all at once or split up within the weeks. But due to everything that has been going on; the online raffle/giveaways and the local raffle will be on hold for the time being. Thank you all for everything you have done for my husband and myself…you all are so amazing and we are humbled by your generosity.

This breaks our heart to think about this, as this was such a wonderful blessing for us; however this has began to cause us more stress due to the current actions that have taken place. Zach and I are about to enter a huge chapter in our lives…as most know this huge chapter comes with stress of it’s own, so we do not need any additional stress. We do not need or want pity, please do not feel sorry for us. We are a strong couple and we will get through this. God has a plan, he is the only one who knows of this plan and we have faith in him and trust him to the full extent. We do not need someone to tell us we are ungrateful because that is far from true. We did not start this blog for pity, for sympathy or for you or anyone to feel sorry for us. We started this to keep family and friends updated as well as to document our journey. At the time I didn’t even realize others could “follow” our story…I was shocked when my followers started to double daily…I was stunned by the outpour of comments, emails and support!!! Zach and I are extremely grateful. So to be told that we are very ungrateful is very hurtful to us. I wish I could express my gratitude, but to be honest, there are not enough words out there for me to describe how thankful we truly are.

31 comments:

Anna said...

I think that's terrible that people are scrutinizing you that way. I am shocked! I hope things get better for you. Hang in there.

The Milams said...

I'm just SHOCKED that people could be so inconsiderate. Pay NO attention to the mindless words these people are splitting.You 2 know where your hearts are as do your faithful followers. Keep your eye on the prize!!! Don't let them get you guys down!

Wendy said...

Tiffany, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I can't even put into words how I feel about the situation!!! I will be praying for those people that have made you feel this way---they are apparently the ones who need prayer the most!!!!

Stephanie said...

I am sorry that you are going through this right now! This is just horrible!!!! Know that my prayers are with you and your husband right now and in the days and months to come!

Angela said...

Hugs. I am so sorry you are having to deal with all this negativity on top of the stress of IF. Keep your head held up high and try not to let them get to you! :)

G & H said...

Wow I am so sorry for whatever negativity has been sent your way for absolutely no reason at all :(

You are so strong and admirable and no matter what we will all still be praying for you and supporting you as your begin this journey!

Sara said...

Tiffany, I am so sorry that there are such angry, selfish, UNHAPPY people who can't find a better way to spend their time than to break someone else down. We should pray for them.

You and Zach are an inspiration to people following the same track, so I hope you continue to update with your progress, hills & valleys.

I'm thinking and praying for you both.

Penny1215 said...

Wow, some people are just amazingly stupid and judgemental!! Judge not lest ye be not judged!!! It's not their place. God knows where your heart is honey! Don't pay these people any mind and certainly don't let them cause you any undue stress!! I pray that everything works out for you!!

Jodi said...

I'm so sorry people are being rude and saying those things. I can't believe some people. You know you are a good person and just focus on your life and all that's going on. Don't let "those people" get to you!

Kristi said...

So sorry for RUDE people in this world. Don't worry about the comments you are not a selfish family. Still praying. Hang in there.

Mimi said...

Tiff,

People like that are not meant to be in your life. Obviously they have serious issues to deal with in their own lives. No matter what the situation is, a true friend or friends do not treat the other unfairly. That, my dear, is not a true friend. Brush it off, whipe the slate clean and worry about the new chapter that is about to unfold. You and Zach are going to get through this and I believe God does have His plans for you two.

No more worries.... They are not worth it!

Love you,
Kami

Mimi said...
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Mimi said...

That was me that deleted that last post. I double posted!!! LOL pregnancy brain over here!

Love you,
Kami

Elaine said...

I am sure the people who are judging you have never walked in your (our) shoes, and for that...I'm sure you are also grateful for. If you've been there, you would never wish this on anyone. Ignore the ignorance. You keep your chin up girly! Better days are ahead of you. I can't wait to see what this next chapter is.

The Simmons Family said...

Life is too short for negativity and judgment by others. I am so sorry. I think by letting it go for now and focusing on your future is a good idea. It's still a bummer. You're good people. You have many friends that KNOW it and most importantly HE knows it! :)

Kristin said...

Wow, Tiffany. I am so sorry that you have been under such stress and horrible judgement. We will always support you, no matter what. One day God will grant you the desires of your heart and your little one will be a testimony to His greatness! I will pray that everything works out and that this stress is lifted off of you.

Kylee said...

I'm sorry that people are being this way. The Lord knows your heart. If these other people have a problem with it, they don't have to give. You have never asked for anything but prayers. Thinking of you.

Amy said...

Love you

The Kelley Family said...

All I can say is WOW! I have been following your blog for awhile, but have never posted. You and Zach have been a greta joy to me as my husband and I are about to imbark on this infertility journey (pending results of an HSG next week) and reading what you two have been through and seeing how strong you are is amazing to me.

I don't know why others hurt people, I can think of many reasons but honestly we will never know. I am sorry that some people have turned something so positive into something negative. Keep living and praying because all that matters is that God hears you and knows your desires. He is the only one you should be concerned about. Best Wishes and keep writing, I love reading your post.

Alicia

Amy said...

Tiff,

You know how feel about this situation, and I'm just very upset and mad that this has happened to you.

You have NOT changed one bit from the Tiff I have known...not in a negative way anyway. You have changed in growing closer to God.

How dare someone do this to you, and how dare they cause your fundraiser to be put on hold.

I know you and Zach are strong (you both have had to face IF and hills to climb), and God will be your strength through this all.

Just remember..the rest of us are standing by your side and supporting you through this.

I love ya girl!

Katie said...

OMGosh girl I can't believe this has happened :( I'm so sorry!!! One or two people have to ruin it for everyone. XOs

Megan said...

Unbelievable! It's really sad that people have set out to hurt you rather than support you. Huge hugs!!!

Anna said...

UGh. Some people just never grow up.....I'm so sorry. I can't believe this is still going on. wow. It must be awful being that bitter inside....

Well, everyone here knows you have a good heart and an honest purpose. We love you. This too shall pass.

Veronica said...

Tiff,

I'm sorry that all of this has happened to you. It's unfortunate that some people have to pick at other people because of their own issues. It is heartless and immature!

I have loved getting to know you these last several months and I really feel that God has placed you in this position so that you can be a light to others. What you have to remember is that the enemy will do all he can to use people to sabotage the things that were meant for good. God sees your heart and knows you better than any of us do. Remember that we know the end of the story already. The devil already has a destiny to fulfill and through Jesus, we are MORE than conquerers!

Please know that I've never seen you as someone who is ungrateful. You have always said thank you for everything that anyone has done for you. Please do not let the enemy get your down. This is your life, your blog, and you should be free to write about whatever is on your heart!!!

Love you lots! You know I'm here if you need anything!

Melody said...

I'm really sorry! Know that those of us commenting still love and pray for you.

Mandi said...

Tiff,

Wow. Apparently whomever has judged you has forgotten or is choosing to ignore that IT IS NOT THEIR JOB to judge in the first place! Your true friends and supporters know the real you (and Zach) and we know how grateful you are. I am sorry this has happened to you and pray that God brings you through it. If you ever need anything don't hesitate to ask!

Tiffany Lockette said...

Tiff, from what I've read over the past month from following your blog, I think you are an amazing person. Keep your head up and remain true to yourself and to God. He will guide you to do the right thing. I am so sorry for any hurtful comments. Try not to let them get you down. You are amazing and I wish you and Zach all the blessings and luck you so much deserve in the future.

Kolt and Susannah said...

tiff and zach, i am so sorry that it has come to this. that people who were supposed to love you and support you have become so self absorbed and ungrateful for what they have, that they need to lash out onto you.

i am proud of you for coming forward with this, and explaining why, because i think it needs to be understood. and i hope that those responsible will someday beg for your forgiveness.

anyone who thinks that you're begging for attention and money, ANYONE that thinks that you are ungrateful, first of all doesn't know you at all, and secondly has obviously NEVER had any kind of fertility issues because if they had they know the heart ache it causes and how much you appreciate all the love and support that is offered.

i love you both (even though i don't really know zach) and you both will always hold a special place in my heart, as does your unborn little bean. i love you!

*kimmie* said...

I've been a bad commenter, but remained a loyal reader. I am so sorry to hear this and will keep you in my prayers. I wish you the best throughout your journey!

Ape said...

Im sorry for everything that happened and what you/we are going through. You know how I feel (from the email last night) and we've said our sorry's. You are an amazing person with a big heart no matter what I or anyone else has said. You are an amazing godmother as well. God will bless you and zach and I still fully believe that.

Dianne said...

That is a real shame! I am so sorry you are going through this mess!


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