Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Adoption/Infertility Road

Deciding to have a baby is like planning a trip to Australia. You've heard it's a wonderful place. You've read many guidebooks and feel certain you're ready to go. Everyone you know has traveled there by plane. They say it can be a turbulent flight with occasional rough landings, but you can look forward to being pampered on the trip.

So you go to the airport and ask the ticket agent for a ticket to Australia. All around you, excited people are boarding planes for Australia. It seems there is no seat for you: You'll have to wait for the next flight. Impatient, but anticipating a wonderful trip, you wait - and wait - and wait.

Flights to Australia continue to come and go. People say silly things like, "Relax, you'll get on a flight soon." Other people actually get on a plane and then cancel their trip, to which you cry, "It's not fair!"

After a long time the ticket agent tells you, "I'm sorry, we're not going to be able to get you on a plane to Australia. Perhaps you should think about going by boat."

"By boat!" you say, "going by boat will take a very long time and it costs a great deal of money, I really had my heart set on going by plane." So you go home and think about not going to Australia at all. You wonder if Australia will be as beautiful if you approach it by sea rather than air. But you have long dreamed of this wonderful place, and finally you decide to travel by boat.

It's a long trip, many months over many rough seas. No one pampers you. You wonder if you will ever see Australia. Meanwhile, your friends have flown back and forth to Australia two or three more times, marveling about each trip.

Then one glorious day, the boat docks in Australia. It is more exquisite than you ever imagined, and the beauty is magnified by your long days at sea. You have made many fiends during your voyage, and you find yourself comparing stories with others who also traveled by sea rather than air.

People continue to fly to Australia as often as they like, but you are able to travel only once, perhaps twice. Some say things like, "Oh, be glad you didn't fly. My flight was horrible: traveling by sea is so easy."

You will always wonder what it would have been like to fly to Australia. Still, you know God blessed you with a special appreciation of Australia, and the beauty of Australia is not in the way you got there, but in the place itself.

(I wish I could take credit for this amazing piece; but the credit goes to; this piece sums up the adoption/infertility life vs. fertile life...I personally don't believe I could have explained this journey in a much better way them the above...)

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Steph921 said...

Oh my gosh so powerful and moving! Loved it

LittleGirlsofMine said...

That is such a great analogy for adoption.....I had never heard that before, but it gave me chills! I must honestly say Tiffany, that before I met you and learned about the infertility journey, I would've been one to say why don't you just adopt. Of course, the main reason is because adoption has blessed my life in ways I can't even explain. However, I'm also a mom and I know how much it means to be able to experience childbirth. So, I just wanted to thank you for helping me to see things from another perspective. I never want to be someone who says things that are hurtful.

laurenalexis1 said...

this is the perfect way to describe it! Thank you so much for posting this! I'm your newest follower! :)

Veronica @ The Veronica Blog said...

Hey Tiff, thanks for sharing this. I'm with Kristin...reading your blog has totally helped me to put a new perspective on how I see infertility. I've learned so much from you and I hope that I can use what I've learned to be there for the people I know who are struggling with this too.

Rosie said...

Wow! I was about to say.....great analogy! (is that the word I'm looking for?)
Anyways, still glad you posted it! Love ya!

stacie said...

I love this analogy. So perfect.

Tiffany Pifer said...

Exactly the word you are looking for :) Glad you liked it, I wish I was that talented to have written it, but I had to give credit where credit was due :)

Tiffany Pifer said...

Awww! Thanks Ver!!! I am so glad I've been able to give you a new perspective on infertility... thanks for all you do! Love ya!!

Tiffany Pifer said...

Awe! Thanks for being my newest follower, so nice to have you!!! I am glad you enjoyed this post! :)

Tiffany Pifer said...

You have touched my life in many ways as glad our story as helped you in ways also! Love you and thanks for all you do!

Tiffany Pifer said...

So glad you loved it :)

Tiffany Pifer said...

So glad you loved this post! :)

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